Say hellooo to a new content series I'm starting on the ol' bloggy blog. Every month I'll have a guest author create a top ten list about any random topic they want... because a.) I love lists and b.) guest authors are fun.
My brother married wonderful, funny, creative, expert-GIF-user Kaylee last August. She's the best sister-in-law in the world and I love her very much. In honor of their one year anniversary, I asked her to start the top ten list party with...
The first year of our marriage was such an adventure for us with some pretty major life changes in addition to adjusting to being married and sharing a life together. It was a lot to handle! But looking back I realize that we learned a lot in the process. Here are the top 10 things I learned in my first year of marriage.
1. There is no better feeling than waking up after your wedding and realizing that you are no longer planning a wedding. Even better? Getting to experience that relief your new husband. It’s a win-win situation.
2. That relieved feeling all comes crashing down when you return from your honeymoon and have to fit two grown adults + all their stuff + all the amazing wedding gifts into one house. YIKES. If I could do it all over again, I would do some Marie-Kondo level purging before Daniel moved in.
3. Cooking for two people takes more food than you think. Honestly, I am still not good at this. We always seem to run out of food on Thursday.
4. Related: two people = twice the mess. More laundry. More dishes. Send help.
5. Also related: It’s okay to ask for help. I knew this intuitively, but it was/is still hard. But when Daniel and I split up the chores, it was revolutionizing.
6. Being married at Christmas is next-level happiness. It’s my favorite holiday with twice as much joy. Daniel, however, was not as excited about this one because it involved watching White Christmas multiple times. SORRY NOT SORRY.
7. Marriage helped me appreciate the small moments, like me and Daniel drinking coffee together each morning. Because everything was so new, it was special. I hope that is a perspective that I can keep with me for the rest of our lives.
8. Marriage is about way more than “happily ever after.” I think God uses marriages to mold people, and I know I am way more aware of my own issues and tendencies after one year of marriage than I was before. It’s humbling, for sure. But it’s worth it.
9. Your timeline is YOUR timeline. It’s easy to fall into the comparison trap about what your marriage should look like. I think each marriage has unique highs and lows, and it’s better to not use other marriages as a yardstick for where you should be or how you should feel.
10. Marriage is a lot more fun and joyful than I thought it would be. I am a super independent person, which made me worried about how I would adjust to being married. Marriage can be hard, but I legitimately love spending time with Daniel. He makes me laugh like no other person does, and even on our worst days I am having more fun with him than I did without him.
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